I’ve discovered over many years that there is not much of a relationship between talent and preparedness. There may be some slight nuances and correlations but there’s simply no way to connect the two ideas together very well.
I have been fortunate enough to work with some very talented and very motivated individuals over the years with a variety of different age groups. I have worked with some young 20-somethings who have done incredible work and some that have been some of the worst hires imaginable. I have also worked with people 2 to 3 decades my senior with the same results.
Age, it seems, doesn’t appear to be too much of a factor either.
Some of my models are old.
Yesterday I stood in front of a number of parents and teachers as well as administrators at my oldest daughter’s elementary school and I found myself incredibly nervous, anxious even.
Part of it was simply because I hadn’t really prepared very much for this “pitch” as I typically do since it’s been a wickedly-busy week but it was mostly because I hadn’t yet created a framework for something like this.
In other words, I didn’t have any explicit model for this experience that I was about to engage with and that makes me incredibly nervous, almost to the point of breakdown.
You see, modeling is a fundamental part of how I navigate life as an autist – I have models for everything especially relationships and how I engage with them. How this works in my head is very much like a library where I am able to create new models on my mental shelf and execute against them when I find myself in contextually-similar situations.
I am so clever that sometimes I don’t understand a single word of what I am saying.
- Oscar Wilde
Sometimes we fool ourselves into believing that we are much more clever than we actually are; that we are providing some earth-shattering perspective that no one has ever really postulated before and that our unique insight is truly just that: unique.
The reality is that most challenges that we are facing have been faced and have been overcome or have been attempted, tried, and failed.
Sure, the entire context is unique insofar as you are now facing the present obstacle and there has not been, nor will there ever be, another you, but the obstacle in and of itself is well-worn and weathered.
I couldn’t be more proud of my wife and her life-long friend who have started a new local Atlanta blog that will highlight their friendship, their love for food, family, and being second-generation Koreans.
They are the Kimchi Belles!
I was speaking with a friend recently who is embarking on a very exciting new adventure in his life both professionally and personally.
On the former he is undertaking a much larger role with a newish organization that is growing like a weed and will be responsible for building the systems and strategy that take this promising venture to the very next level (and beyond). On the latter he is moving his family out of their comfort zone and into a new geographical area with the challenge of making new friends, new relationships, and without the long-standing local support network of family and friends.
Needless to say, it is going to be quite an exciting time for him and his family and is positively the right choice for him in so many different ways; I couldn’t be more excited for him as he gets things quickly underway.
There is nothing on this earth more to be prized than true friendship.
I’m learning this more and more each year although it’s becoming even more difficult to determine what exactly friendship really is.
We are a generation that brags incessantly with our mobile devices showcasing to the world our good fortune and the neat toys that we get to play with, the places that we get to visit (or live), and the special people that we hang out with.
It’s all done in high-fidelity image capture, editing done via advanced mobile applications for an even “better” perspective, and then shared publicly to our adoring fans and followers. This generation is one that will be known for (and remembered by) the thousands upon thousands of images that have been created for the sole purpose of bragging.
And I don’t mind it as much as you might think.