All companies will inevitably walk through the process of relieving someone of their role within the company. Whether this is a part of the natural order of a company being acquired and being streamlined for resources or a breach of contract or simply natural attrition as your staff finds that it’s time to leave for the next adventure, it is inevitable.
I think leaving well (and ending well in the larger scheme) is vitally important for the employee and the organization. The chief motive for an exit interview is simply this as it is an opportunity for the ex-employee and the organization to create one final and explicit moment of critical learning.
I’m sorry to say this but most of my previous “motherships” were not kind to me and so I must confess that I do not love nor miss them. Besides, I don’t expect that they’d remember me anyways.
But, I want to say that I appreciated you, you previous motherships, at the time, for who you were when I said “Yes” to the opportunity. Things changed and our relationship status couldn’t weather the inevitable shifts that occurred. It wasn’t anyone’s fault (or at least in a few circumstances…) – it is just what was (and is).
It can be difficult, at times, to know exactly what one should do with one’s time when in leadership. Sure, there are the global mission-critical functions that each role has but those can often be more strategic in nature and less tactical.
This is especially challenging for the software programmer who is now faced with executive leadership. It is worth repeating that not all software programmers should look to find themselves in management (see this classic startup sin here).
I can’t remember where I first heard these (it may have been from the founders of Linux and/or Red Hat…) but I’ve been thinking about them recently as I’ve been coaching a number of new startups that we’ve invested in as well as more than a handful of young entrepreneurs through local programs like Endevvr.
Here as three fundamental theories in the IT industry:
- It all happened by accident
- It was done by amateurs
- Nothing has really changed
Out of the blue my oldest asked me a very simple question as we were finishing up dinner last night:
Appa, what makes your job so special?
I told her that that was a really easy question to answer and I gave her these three reasons (she was specifically talking about The Iron Yard):
I was a guest on Life Stoked podcast recently and I wanted to let you guys know about it. I shared personal challenges and stigmas that I’ve had to overcome.
Thanks Deacon for inviting me! Here it is below:
We are creatures that instictively move in the opposite direction of anything that would cause us pain (or seek to cause us pain). It doesn’t matter if it’s emotional, physical, or psychological – we’ll do just about anything to avoid it.
Pain is inevitable. It’s unavoidable. We are predisposed to it. We are destined to experience it. We must walk through it. We must encounter it. And we will, God-willing, survive.