A Letter to My 2 Girls Re: The Internet

Dear Roenne and Arden,

I love you so much. I hope you know that. I love you when you’re happy. I love you when you’re sad. I love you when you’re sleeping and I love you even more when you’re misbehaving. I love you.

You are not fully aware yet of this fact but soon you will come to know that your daddy works on the internet. That is, I earn a living for our family working on products and with people that engage on the internet – every single single second of every single day. I work there because I really enjoy it – I do my best work there and I find incredible pleasure by providing value to many, many people.

But I want you to know that the place that I work has no rules. No one tells anyone to “stop” and no one tells anyone what they can and cannot do. There are no spankings on the internet, no timeouts, and no one is denied dessert because of something they did during the day. People on the internet and people who use technology (like your iPods and iPads) can do whatever they want with very little consequence.

It makes this world both a very neat one but also very, very dangerous. There are people who will want to hurt you through technology and the internet. They may even be your “friends” – or people who you think are your friends. You will feel pressure to do things that you may not feel good about doing.

I want you to be courageous. Really courageous. Remember how we pray every night that you would be “strong and courageous?” That you would grow to be beautiful, strong, brave, and wise? Never forget that you are brave, that you are courageous, and that you should never feel pressure to do something that you do not feel like doing, especially on your mobile phones, on the internet, or with any technology that may exist.

You are my two beautiful girls who I love so deeply it hurts. It hurts because I know that I will not always be there to protect you from the bad stuff. I will not always be there to hug you and give you endless kisses on your face. I will not always be there to give you counsel about decisions that you will have to make.

That is a good thing, in some ways, since I want you to grow up independent from your mother and I. But I want you to always know that I’m here – I’m available for you to call, to text, to tweet @ – I don’t care how you do it as I will do anything to keep the communication channels open. I’ll use any device, any technology, and medium that you want and I’ll be there.

You are beautiful. You are brave. You are more important to me than anyone’s opinion or wishes or desires or pressure from the internet. You are always welcome here. You are safe.

I love you Roenne. I love you Arden. Never, never forget.

Your one and only “appa”.

  • http://www.youngcreativeministry.com Danny De los Reyes

    Such a sweet post man. Hits home because we’re expecting a little girl

  • http://www.twitter.com/matthewfsnider Matthew Snider

    Great idea and an awesome letter to the ladies. I have three of them and we are already speaking about the computer and iPad time.

    Good stuff brother

  • http://bradkindercoaching.com/blog bradkindercoaching

    A great letter to your girls. I have been through much of this with our daughter, she is 17 now. Now to continue the efforts with our son who is 10. A sweet post and you didn’t mention what you would do to someone who even attempted to hurt them. :)

    • http://john.do/ John

      don’t even want to think about that… ugh!

  • http://thewiredhomeschool.com John

    Good stuff, man.

  • http://31kings.com Josh Christophersen

    Great letter John. Wow, that telegraph article was so sickening. Things are changing so quickly. Good reminder to be super intentional with my five daughters.

  • Juanita

    Incredibly sweet letter. I suppose it’s both a great and not-so-great thing that they will only fully appreciate this letter and what it says about what you feel for them when they are much much older.

  • http://gravatar.com/hansschiefelbein Hans Schiefelbein

    Precious, John.

  • http://snitchim.com/ Eric Pangburn

    That’s great stuff to be think about, I have a 2 yr old daughter and you have given me something like always to think about for her future!

  • http://www.rcginfotech.com/ Amit

    I can bet you will never forget them

  • http://projectwhitespace.com bethany Lee

    Love this, John. I hope your daughters have read it. Or will read it.

    • http://john.do/ John

      will read it… someday.

  • http://jackiebledsoe.com/ jbledsoejr

    Nice! I, too, pray every night with my kids “be strong and courageous” If I’ve ever forgotten that part of the prayer, our 3-year old says “daddy to you say be ‘rong ragus’?” :)

    Thanks for posting this.