Isn’t this the truth?
There are only a few things in this life that are absolutely final - everything else is just another opportunity to try again.
Failure is such an important and fundamental part of who we are and what we do. In many ways the “accidental” failures can be conceived as success later as we look back on it with fondness.
Of course, in the moment it just absolutely sucks.
I’ve written about Jeff Bezos three times now (including this post) and he continues to inspire and challenge me in a lot of ways. I first wrote about how he really challenged me in regards to taking risks and lifestyle changes as well as his long-term strategic thinking and this weekend I’ve been thinking about a speech that he gave recently where he mentions his theory on ”Regret Minimization”:
I was looking for the right framework in which to make that kind of important decision (to leave a cushy Wall Street job) and right framework I found is a regret minimization framework. That’s just a nerdy way of saying that you want to project yourself to age 80 and think back over your life and you want to minimize the number of regrets over that period of time.
If I tried and failed would I regret it? I knew the answer was “No.” I also knew that if I didn’t try that I would always regret that, I would always wonder and it would haunt me.
You can, of course, watch the full video here:
A few thoughts via Jeff Henderson who presented on the topic of How to Make Your Next Presentation Your Best Presentation @ Roam Dunwoody last Friday.
These notes are in no particular order but rather the “nuggets” that I got from Jeff.
It’s worth noting that Jeff has launched a new consulting business called Primed where he coaches others on how to do this specifically – there are few people who have the practical expertise and know-how that I’d sit under for teaching.
This is especially true since I am not a professional communicator and so I’m not actively looking for coaching or mentoring in this regard – but he’s so good that I can’t pass up on an opportunity to learn from him.
Taking a serious look at these.
A constant challenge for a creative person, especially for a business-inclined one, is trying to vet opportunities and make sure that one is spending their very precious time working on the one that is the most impactful and most rewarding both personally and professionally.
I will admit, though, that it’s easier said than done. I have said “Yes” to viable business opportunities just on that one merit alone – that they were good business opportunities and nothing more. Generally-speaking, this meant that there was a healthy profit margin or financial motivation that was going on behind the scenes and I hoped that this decision would be beneficial for all players involved.
But this has always been the path of least resistance for me and never the best nor right decision. I have learned that the best opportunities are the ones that are more than just another business opportunity – they are projects that engage me fully.
You have the Midas Touch!
I have heard this said more than a few times and I internally cringe every single time even though in real-time I politely thank them and emotionally I die a little.
This isn’t false humility or some socially-constructed pressure which demands that I diminish myself so that I can, in fact, do the exact opposite. The point with me is that it’s simply untrue.
Gillian Lynne is a hero of mine for a number of creative reasons.
The first is that she was (and still is) a dancer and for a time I danced routinely as a way to exercise, build community, recreate, and generally let go of some steam.
Although dancing can be a very collaborative endeavor is very much an isolated and individual feat – within your own body and mind, spirit and soul you must find the right networked parts of who you are and express them publicly in a way that may or may not interact with other performers.
This is especially true during practices where you can spend hours at a time by yourself, in your own little head working through the challenges of the next step physically while mentally creating pictures of yourself completing them successfully. Dancing, in a nutshell, encompasses and demands all of who you are and that’s why I particularly love it as an art.