Success Looks Like

One of the things that I’ve learned over the years is that when success is all about me (diagram #1) and everyone pouring into me then a few things happen:

  1. It’s all about me – This feels good, but ultimately it’s selfish, prideful, and doesn’t help my health (literally).
  2. It’s not sustainable – Because I’m feeding off of everyone that I come in contact with it ends up being exhausting.
  3. It’s not stable – In addition to not being sustainable, it’s also emotional dangerous as my emotions are subject to the masses perspective and opinion.
  4. It’s directionless – Getting shuffled by everyone’s opinion I serve everyone and as a result I serve no one.
  5. It’s not productive – It just isn’t. Trust me.

When I started moving into the second model I learned a great deal of things and how it’s much more a model of personal and professional success than the former:

  1. It’s about me + them – I haven’t forgotten about myself but it’s much more balanced between my customers and my team. I’ve been more successful with my partners than alone.
  2. It’s sustainable – This is because I get to pick and choose who I get to work with and when. As you can see, I’m not serving everyone because everyone can’t be a customer and/or partner.
  3. It’s much more stable – Because my time is calculated and well-spent I get to create a more healthy balance for work, life, and everything in between. My wife is much happier too.
  4. It has significant purpose – My aim is focused and my effort is made optimal. I know where I’m headed, who I need to work with, and what I need to be doing with my time.
  5. It’s productive… as all get out. I don’t waste time and people don’t have time wasted. I love it!

Much of this is energy management and the focus of our efforts. We need to be successful the right way, instead of the many different and varying wrong ways.

Be successful. Be loved.

  • http://ryandouglasscott.com Ryan Scott

    Great post. I’ve found that success is almost always a sure thing to anyone who stops trying to find it and just rolls up their sleeves and goes to work. Serving people always makes you more valuable to the community. Serving yourself might make you feel good for a short while but will never give you lasting success.

    I think, perhaps, the greatest success is helping other people be successful. Which is what this website is built to do. Hats off to you John for all you do.

    • http://john.do John Saddington

      thanks ryan for that encouragement. i write because i enjoy it. if people get help and support via it then awesome! but i’d still write even if that wasn’t happening. …! … … i think.

      ;)

    • http://HealthNutBlogger.com Jessica Zirbes

      I agree…her, here!

  • Robert Brookshire

    What a fantastic post. I hate to admit this but – I’ve been stuck in situation number one for a while and it is wreaking havoc in my life. Thanks for posting this. It helped me get a new perspective on things.

    • http://john.do John Saddington

      sure thing robert. do for one what you wish you could do for many.

  • ThatGuyKC

    Amen! It’s so easy as a blogger to get caught up in the me stuff (statistics, traffic, commets, RT’s, etc) instead of being outward focused.

    Loving the notebook visuals.

    • http://john.do John Saddington

      thanks man! i enjoy drawing from time to time.