Monthly Archives: August 2009

4 Years in 4 Days: Hopeful Attempt No. 1


My wife and I have been married for 3 years and 362 days (including today, I think) and Thursday we’re going to celebrate our big #4.

I completely suck at these sort of things. I am certifiably nervous about it and at the same time excited.

And since I’m nervous one of my consistent remedies is to journal (and blog) about it, so over the next 4 days I’m going to attempt to communicate 4 truths which I’ve learned in the last year only (I’ve apparently learned a lot more over the last 4 years, but this past year was formidable).

Attempt No. 1 – Leadership

I’ve learned that leadership in marriage doesn’t have anything to do with what I thought a “leader” was in marriage. In fact, it’s completely contrary to what I thought was true and how the world sees “leadership.”

Being a “leader” in my household or “leading my wife” (as we typically say in Christianese) is more about being right with God individually as much as it is corporately; in fact, I think there’s priority and order within this context as well.

In addition, it’s much less about explicit action and much more of a heart and mind issue.

I’ve barely got it together as a sinner-yet-saved and when I explicitly have tried to “lead” I fail. But, when I model godliness or take my own faith seriously, those are the times of effective leadership.

Actually, I’ll be honest; my wife has modeled Christ-likeness more than I have and to that I’m extremely thankful because my wife has shown me what leadership is all about: Love and service.

[Image from Hamed]

A Digital Smoke Break.


It’s been a wonderful break from the internets as I’ve been on vacation over at Hilton Head (thanks for all the recommendations on Twitter guys!) with my family. In fact, I’m still there (at least for now as I blog this).

I’ve checked my email only a handful of times and Twitter even less (w0w) and didn’t really bother to answer much of either.

Yahooooooo. It’s been like a digital smoke break for me (and upon reflection I realized that this metaphor might be understood only by myself…).

I used to smoke and I remember the pleasant and peaceful feeling of dropping everything I was doing, walking outside (the colder the better), and finding comfort in the idea that I had only one purpose and only one thing to concentrate on. This time it was my family (I don’t smoke anymore).

There was, at one point, a feeling of absolute bliss as my daughter was pouring warm, wet sand on me as the temperature-perfect water of the Atlantic was washing over my body. I thought:

The blogs, the tweets, the internets… all those things can just wait.

So my wife and I made an executive decision to stay another day. What a great decision.

Husband Fail Friday

It’s Friday! Time for another Husband Fail!

This is your opportunity to share silly stories of how your husband pretty much failed you this past week!

Or, if you want to be honest (Mr. Husband) then go ahead and admit what you did and how it was so lame of you to do whatever you did before your wife shows up and does it for you!

Please try not to take yourself (or this post) too seriously…

Me First:

I’m on vacation, but, that doesn’t mean that I can’t do no wrong (typically a “vacation” means more opportunity to serious fails).

So far I haven’t done so poorly, but, I blew up a coffee pot this morning. That sucked. Pray for me so I can make it through this vacation…!


I HEART Charity:Water

I’ll be honest, I’ve never been a big fan of charities. I’m not sure what it is but I just wasn’t in to them.

Perhaps it was emotion-based, like guilt or shame for not caring as much as I felt like I should. Perhaps it was financial, because at times I felt like I didn’t have anything to give. Perhaps it was simply because I didn’t believe they were legit; that the money or resources got to the actual people in need.

All that changed with Charity:Water.

And it wasn’t because of some cosmic change in my theology, philosophy, or anything like that. It all changed because it became personal; it became relationship-based; it became real.

A good friend of mine, Esther Havens, gave her time, resources, and talents to shoot photography for them. She’s amazing, wonderful, charming, and certainly talented; she was a friend and I trusted her.

When she came back to share her experiences I believed. It didn’t take anything else than a personal testimony from a person I loved and trusted; Charity:Water had my support.

Since then my wife and I have been to the Twestivals and been avid raving fans of the organization. I’ve been to their galas in New York City and raised funds for them, blogged about them, and more.

I’d like to challenge you to do the same. I may not be the most trusted source of information for you, as a reader, but if I am you’re in the hot seat. Consider Charity:Water, what they’re doing, and then do something about it.

I’ve created a group called “Bloggers and Tweets Who Love Clean Water” on their site and if you want feel free to join up!

Fighting Baby-Sized Problems


Today I dealt with some baby-sized problems that, taken from the wrong perspective, could have been seen to be quite large. I’m thankful for them though; it’s helping me stay the course and stay prepared.

It’s all in how you look at it, right?

Any baby-sized problems lately for you?