Even reviewing this image for a moment helps me frame some of the relationships (and issues) that I’ve had in the past year:
There are always three realities to consider in the context of a relationship:
- Your reality
- Their reality
- Your combined reality
Creating more awareness of this dynamic is powerful, even in mental exercises. But, I’ve actually thought about these things during a heated chat with my partner and spouse as well, trying to intentionally think about what I was encoding into the current context and how she was attempting to decode the present reality combined with our shared history — it’s quite a lot that happens in a short amount of time!