I love this so much:
Lately, I’ve been thinking that if I have one particular skill, it is finding great partners and building trust with them.
I love discovering the topics and areas to which each person I meet brings unusually high credibility, and constructing systems that have as many people as possible doing what they love to do. When it works, those systems are less fragile, anti-fragile even, because of the way everyone is operating in their zone of genius—that area beyond their zone of competence and even their zone of excellence, the thing they most love to do.
For me, there is no end to this activity, no prize or summit where I’m done and will feel satiated. To build trust is enjoyable in its own right.via Graham Duncan
Building trust is a fun (and obviously important) exercise and a skill that I’ve been intentionally working on for a while. A good reminder about getting references:
So let’s reframe the interview process: there are two elephants in the room, yours and that of the person you’re trying to see. The bad news is that you’re mostly blind to both elephants.
The good news is that there are a lot of other riders who’ve traveled alongside the other rider and elephant. If you take your perspective on the rider and your glimpses of his or her elephant, and add everyone else’s experience of the rider and their elephant, and then control a bit for your own elephant and the references’ own elephants, you can get a good sense of how the candidate’s rider-elephant combination behaves.via What’s Going On Here
This is super-useful:
I sometimes visualize meeting one person as the equivalent of meeting the Ocean’s 11 crew together at once, wrapped up in one human envelope—we each have distinct parts, and we tell a story to ourselves and the world that they are a coherent whole, but depending on the context different parts step forward into the light on the stage.
It really is neat to think of folks as a group or team or even super-hero troupe. I mean, why not? We’re all a bit of everything anyways. I really do believe the “spectrum” is where everyone lives and that there isn’t anyone who isn’t on it.