Job > Kids

I’ve read a few pieces of writing recently that I thought were, at the very least, interesting reads.

The first is from a friend and venture capitalist, Eric Bahn:

It all started with a tweet.

The tweet above is where it started and then it eventually expanded into a much larger piece on Business Insider:

We are grumpy all the time and I’m dangerously tired (especially driving). I also feel probably 60 to 70% at full brain power most days. I’m the fattest I’ve ever been.

I’ve accepted that with the decision to have kids, my wife and I are only half as good as we could be in our careers.

We are less psychologically and physically healthy. And we’re losing touch with our close friends.

The deeply honest truth too is that I was more than 50% against ever having kids to begin with. Why purposely destroy my quality of life, right?

Ooph. At least he’s being honest about it.

[Disclosure: Eric and Hustle Fund are investors in my company.]

And then there was this post via NYTimes by someone who’s decided to intentionally choose her own career over her kids:

My choice is more than a financial imperative. I prioritize my work because I’m ambitious and because I believe it’s important. If I didn’t write and teach and litigate, a part of me would feel empty.

Of course, I sometimes feel doubt, shame and fear. I know I’m not a “normal” mom, because my kids tell me so. I remind myself that this does not make me a “bad mom.” I also remind myself that if I were a dad, I would be getting accolades for all the times I scheduled a doctor’s appointment or arranged a play date.

I am proud of what I have accomplished. I am prouder that I can support myself and my children. But sometimes I wonder if my choices will damage them.

Thank goodness for counseling and therapy – my own kids will need plenty of all of that (and that’s not a bad thing at all).