I think I laughed a little too hard at this:

via Dilbert

The reality is that many of us parents know this feel too well. Trying to work and manage the growing demands of children is really, really hard.

The problem is that you’re also never completely sure if you’re doing a good job… unlike one’s work where it can be a bit more easy to qualify and quantify. With children, it’s anyone’s best guess if they’ll turn out okay.

The tension that many of us feel, though, is that we do like and love our kids. And, we want to spend more time with them. But, we feel like if we can’t get our work done then we won’t be able to. Or, we are working hard so that “someday” we’ll be able to spend more time with them.

All of this is nonsense at the end of the day and mental gymnastics that we play to make ourselves feel better about the decisions we’ve made. No one made you take that job. You can go get another one that has a bit more flexibility and freedom to spend time with the kids. It’s possible, especially if you’re a knowledge-worker.

I want more of them, not less. I want to spend an ever-increasing amount of time with them before it’s too late and I’m gone.


Also published on Medium.