These “parental phrases” aren’t bad (via The Week and my mother — thanks mom!):
- “I’m proud of you. But you should also be proud of yourself.”
- “No one is the judge and jury of your self worth.”
- “You worked hard on this. You put a lot of energy into it.”
- “Mistakes are ok, because that’s how you learn.”
- “It’s your responsibility, not mine.”
- “I am sorry that I yelled.”
The last one, in particular, is something that our
team (I call our family a “team” to invoke those types of sentiments as well as workflows) is something easy to recognize but hard to do, especially in the moment.
An apology is one of the most powerful actions that each of us have a lot of agency and control over. And, as we all know, it can be very difficult to actually offer one, especially a genuine one.
But, with a little (i.e. a lot) practice we can get better at this, collectively, as a family, as a team, as a society. Apologizing isn’t weakness; it’s actually the exact opposite: Strength, courage, humility, and a commitment to move forward, together.
Can’t stop, won’t stop.