It Starts with You — 90

This post is part of Project: Inception, written ~8 years ago. It has been untouched from its original, pseudonymous, form. It is also part of the larger “farewell” tour and countdown as I turn-off this blog and head to the metaverse where I will live out the rest of my wonderful days. I hope to see you there!

It Starts with You

Scott Belsky, the founder of Behance and a creative entrepreneur, has been studying other creatives as a life mission. In his book Making Ideas Happen he took what he learned from studying other creative entrepreneurs, business leaders, and successful artists and discovered patterns of behavior that helped them do their best work and move from thought to action.

In the beginning of his book he re-evaluates the core issue of being creative:

The real problem is less about how society views creative people and more about how creative people view themselves.

And in many ways he’s right. The aspie creative, all creatives, need to wake up to the idea that we were unique designed to be amazing at the things that we do, even as odd as they might be to the so-called “normal” people.

In many ways my own diagnosis was a part of my own re-discovery and an opportunity to re-imagine and re-engineer my very thoughts about who I am and why I am here. It’s also given me cause to re-think what I’m supposed to do with my new knowledge and wisdom about my own behavior and how it’s organized and structured my life.

For sure my diagnosis has opened my eyes and has given me answers to many things that I have always been confused about – it’s also made me aware of new things that have helped me further take advantage of my condition, building a workflow and environment that allows me to achieve flow consistently and successfully.

But it starts with me. It starts with how I see creativity. It starts with how I view myself as an aspie creative. It starts with me not only acknowledging who I am and the way I was built but embracing and loving it completely and unconditionally. In many ways my diagnosis has allowed me to fully do this because without it I would still very much be in either denial or doubt about many things. I had no answers for some of my behavior and on really bad days I believed that I was either stupid, or broken, or just “wrong” for wanting things the way that I did and demanding that certain things be done certain ways and the worst was not being able to resolve or “fix” things that I ignorantly wished I could.

Now I see very clearly everything. It’s as if the puzzle pieces have found their right spots in the much larger puzzle. In fact, I have begun to see what the entire puzzle is supposed to look like and what I’m trying to achieve. There is organization where there was once chaos and clarity where there was once rampant ambiguity.

I love who I am more than ever before. In fact, I believe that I can now love myself as I was supposed to. I can now define my own life well, I can see my creativity in the right light, and I can begin to further refine my vocation and my work even greater.

It starts with me and it’ll start with you. Perhaps your greatest weakness is not in your abilities but how you see them and how you perceive your own creative gifts. Instead of being a cost you can now see a benefit. Instead of seeing your particular behavior and perspective as a liability you may now see as competitive advantage. And instead of seeing oneself as not being able to contribute as others can and do you now are able to see that you have something entirely different and unique to offer, something the world is desperately waiting to be shared and revealed.

I’m so thankful for my new reality and I’m not going back.