This post is part of Project: Inception, written ~8 years ago. It has been untouched from its original, pseudonymous, form. It is also part of the larger “farewell” tour and countdown as I turn-off this blog and head to the metaverse where I will live out the rest of my wonderful days. I hope to see you there!
Flushing the Toilet
I hate flushing the toilet.
It’s not that I don’t believe in flushing – I mean, who wants to see bodily waste in the first place let alone someone else’s junk, especially when it’s the left-overs from a longer-than-normal engagement at the local cuban / mexican joint?
But I refuse to flush that darn thing, especially at night. I got away with this strange behavior because I could easily rationalize that I didn’t want to “wake” anyone with the thunderous crash of water swirling down a dark hole at 3:00 in the morning.
But who wants to wake to a full dark mess as the first thing in the early AM? Nope, not even me and especially not my wife and kids. But I’ll tell you, flushing is tantamount to sinning as I just can’t bear the thought – and I can’t exactly explain why.
These types of irrational aversions are typical with people like us and there’s very little that we can do about it. Yet, I have found something fascinating about this particular behavior because it’s symptomatic of a much larger and unique value that we can bring to almost any conversation, perspective, or business scenario.
To understand this one must first understand the power of what I call preferencing, or the act of having a preference. Take for example this common-place experience where it’s getting close to lunch hour in your office and you begin to conversate with your other colleagues about where the team should dine for lunch.
Ideas are tossed out, this and that. This activity has always killed me as I am not a fence-sitter in any circumstance. I have a preference and I have an opinion; a strong one at that. But people begin to iterate around the question, suggesting different ideas for food, perhaps afraid to hurt someone’s feelings or get railed for suggesting a place that was entertained last week.
Most people may not necessarily know what they want to eat but they do know what they don’twant to eat. You see, it’s sometimes easier to know what we don’t want than what we want. With Aspies it’s never really in question to begin with.
We know what we want and what we don’t want, all at the exact same time and this is a powerful tool in decision-making and creative developments. I have unashamedly offered my opinions, whether they may be liked or not, and been rewarded for it. You may have trained yourself to become less opinionated (or less likely to share openly) but I say that you should consider reverting back to that which is more natural.
The world is in desperate need for creative people to make decisions – whether you flush that damn toilet or not is exactly not the point. It’s the fact that I’m sure that I, for one, will not.